What is success? Define what success means to you

Is earning a six-figure income success? Is having a lavish home success? Is having a BMW a success? Or is having a moderate size home filled with love and laughter of the children a success? If you haven’t thought about these questions in the past, do it now. Retrospect and define success for yourself.

We all are running in the race of life to be successful. To be ahead of others, at every turn. To be the best, and to have the highest achievements, income, and social status. In this article, I am going to talk to you about the true meaning of the word – “SUCCESS” and what it means to be successful.

When you hear the word “Success,” what comes to your mind? 

Take a moment, close your eyes, and think about it.

Money and Luxury? Respect? Power? Social Status?

For some, this definition of success is real. But, not for the vast majority. 

Success isn’t something that can be generally defined. Your definition of success may differ from mine.You have to understand that success is not a free-size clothing item that can fit everyone.

Instead, it’s a tailored suit, custom-made for each one of us. We become successful on our terms.

The radical problem

Most of us make the mistake of deriving our definition of success from our relatives, friends, and peers. When you do this, you limit yourself to a passenger seat in the ride of your own life, while letting somebody else drive and make all your decisions for you, regardless if you are happy or not. Letting someone else decide success for you delivers a significant hit to your self-esteem and confidence. It also creates stress, exhaustion, and frustration and, ultimately, robs you of the happiness you deserve. 

Therefore, don’t look out at the world for approval; look within

Remember that to achieve real success, consider your self-defined goals, and evaluate how much you have accomplished based on your definition of success. (Not someone else’s definition)

A single factor can’t determine success, be it money, respect, friends, or any other thing.

To define success for yourself, evaluate where you are and where you want to be on these six factors:

1. Happiness

To be able to say, “I love and enjoy the work that I do, every day” is a privilege that most people do not have. Being happy does not mean always being in a good mood. It means you are satisfied with where you are in life and can enjoy and appreciate the small positives rather than focusing entirely on the negatives when you are going through a rough phase. 

2. Health

Taking good care of yourself and waking up healthy each day is success. Being physically and mentally healthy plays a crucial part in determining one’s happiness and success.

When it comes to mental health, nothing increases our stress levels, as failure can. But how you handle that failure says a lot about you, and also determines your mental health. If you fail to achieve a goal and then fixate on that failure, you will stress yourselves out and ultimately lose your self-confidence, which will make you even more stressed.

Instead, you should learn from your mistakes, move on, and work on improving yourself. To grow in life, follow the motto “Win or Learn.

A quick way to start improving mental health and fitness is by maintaining a gratitude journal. Gratitude Journal plays an essential role in one’s success, and if you don’t believe me, you can ask Oprah Winfrey.

Taking care of your fitness gives you a confidence boost and also increases your self-esteem. 

A successful person is both emotionally and mentally healthy. But it doesn’t mean that they are always confident and are never stressed or they never feel down or emotionally drained. They do, but they don’t let any of that stop them from trying again and again to achieve their goals. That is what being healthy means – to always have the strength to keep going forward.

3. Reasonably prosperous

Reasonably prosperous

A rich person might not be a successful person. It’s not your wealth that defines your success, but it’s your character.

Success is having a house and surrounded by people to love who love you in return.

A person is said to be reasonably prosperous when he has a roof over his head, food in his stomach, friends, and family to share his joys.

He might not have luxurious villas, expensive cars, and branded clothes, but if he loves and enjoys doing his job, he does hard work and can sustain his position in the long term, then even a small apartment bought by his hard-earned money is priceless to him.

He might not be prosperous in the eyes of society, but to him, the things he acquires in his life for himself and his family, with his hard-earned money, are nothing less than precious jewels, and that is why he is more prosperous than most affluent people.

4. Financial security

Having a healthy income is not enough to “secure” yourselves, especially if you spend everything you earn on luxury and materialistic items.

Financial security means to meet your obligations each month comfortably and have some extra money saved. The knowledge that you have provided that security for your family in the event of your demise.

“Do not save what is left after spending; instead spend what is left after saving.”

Warren Buffett

To achieve financial security, you should have a stable source of income and savings. Rather than spending on luxury, save and invest it wisely into assets such as property or stocks, which will help you in the long run. 

Always have an emergency fund. 

5. Peace of Mind

To have a peaceful state of mind means that you can enjoy your life and cherish your achievements, even the small ones, without worrying about what others might think about your status or what they are doing with their lives. It is a feeling of content and satisfaction with yourselves and realizing the struggles you’ve overcome, how far you’ve come, and how much you have achieved and appreciating yourself for all your efforts.

6. Good friends and family

Above all else, we want companionship in life. Good food and good friends make for a good time. Your friends and family will always be there for you in your time of need.

Think about how many friends you have. Not just people you see every day or your neighbor, I mean REAL friends.

If you come up with none, then you are doing something very wrong. When you are at your deathbed, the money or assets you’ve accumulated won’t matter. What will matter is who is there to hold your hand and to support you.

We may have bad days or a bad couple of months or even a bad year, but we will always be able to get out of any slump life throws our way, if we have friends and family to spread positivity in our lives.

Now, go ahead and define your own success.

If you have any question please feel free to ask in comments.